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desertdweller
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So far I have only found 2 Christian colleges,  Toccoa and Liberty that do not allow opposite ***** visitors in the dorm room.   My husband insist on this.    Does anyone know of others?  This search is VERY time consuming!!    Thanks
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Do you mean no opposite s*x visitors EVER or visits at prescribed times.?

I'm confused.  You aren't going to be staying the dorm, right?  Is that just a qualifying factor that your dh feels is important?


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Sorry, I wasn't clear.   Traditionally Christian colleges used to only allow opposite s-x visitors in the lobby.  Now most seem to have gone "modern"  and allow the visits to take place in the dorm room during restricted hours with the door open.  My husband insists on dorm rules that do not allow opposite s-x to be allowed in the dorm room.  
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Ah, but you won't be staying in the dorm, it is just a qualifying factor, right?


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Dd would be living in the dorm.  No, we would not be staying in the dorm.     Yes, it is a qualifying factor.
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Christ for the Nations in Dallas allows no females in the boys room and vice versa.   They have a strict girl/boys policy.  


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LOL!!!  For some odd reason I thought you were a newly married young adult.  Sorry!!!

How about the school associated with Abeka in Pensacola, FL?


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Vickie M
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Hyles-Anderson in Indiana probably doesn't allow that.
I met some people that attended there.


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The following is from the women's residence hall handbook at Union College in Lincoln, Nebraska:

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GENTLEMEN Rees Hall is not a coed residence hall. Gentlemen found anywhere in the residence hall
(other than the front lobby) without specific permission from a Dean will be subject to discipline as well as the
lady visited. Gentlemen are welcome to visit Rees Hall front lobby Sunday through Friday nights until 11:00
p.m. and Saturday night until 1:00 a.m. Special permission from a Dean is required to have a gentleman assist
with heavy luggage or other large items. The same policy is in effect for ladies found in any area of the men's
residence halls other than the main lobbies, as well as the gentleman visited.


http://www.ucollege.edu/


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Definitely not allowed at Pensacola Christian. Also Bob Jones. There will be some out there, they may just be harder to find. Try Tennessee Temple, Cedarville, or Clearwater Christian. I'm sure there are more out there.
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I would love for her to go to BJU, but she doesn't want to go because their music is too conservative for her taste.  She loves contemporary  Christian music (but not hard rockish).  
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Bob Jones and Pensacola Christian College came to mind. Maybe those are the two ones that are known for being very conservative. Also, maybe Wheaton College in Wheaton, IL? I don't know their policy, but you can look into it. It's a conservative college.

I'm living on an all-female floor in a co-ed dorm, and it works really well, actually. I think that the all-female floors help keep most guys out, even when they can "officially" come in!


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and remember what peace there may be in silence. . . ." - Max Ehrmann, "Desiderata"
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I'm pretty sure there is one here in Kentucky.  I know I've heard my dd talk about one like that.  But I'd have to ask her the name of the college.  It is south central KY - I think.


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At Greenville College (Greenville, Illinois), where my son attends, opposite s*x visitors are allowed in the rooms but the door must be open.  The school is known for its contemporary Christian music program.  Every spring they host a large music festival that she might be familiar with....Agape Music Festival.


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She'd love Christ For the Nations if she likes great praise/worship music.  Then again I'm a little biased with ds being part of the worship team!  


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What about LaTourneau in Tyler TX?  


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My dd thinks that Lindsey Wilson College in Columbia, KY has that rule, but I can't find it on their website anywhere.


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Although they also have co-ed apartment Asbury College in Wilmore KY has some women only living arrangements.
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Oh, I forgot to say that at Greenville, there are visiting hours.  No one of the opposite ***** in the dorm after visiting hours.


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Quoted from cassie
What about LaTourneau in Tyler TX?  


LaTourneau is in Longview, TX which is close to Tyler. I think they are pretty conservative.
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Didn't realize it was in Longview.   I don't remember it being there when we lived there... then again I was in 6th grade so that makes it back in the Stone Age.  

Yes, it very conservative but they do a lot of contemporary christian music in their chapels.


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Quoted from desertdweller
So far I have only found 2 Christian colleges,  Toccoa and Liberty that do not allow opposite ***** visitors in the dorm room.   My husband insist on this.    Does anyone know of others?  This search is VERY time consuming!!    Thanks


Pensacola Christian College
Clearwater Christian College

Maranatha Baptist College
Northland Baptist Bible College

Appalachian Bible College
Bob Jones University
Piedmont Baptist Bible College
Bryan College
Patrick Henry College

Foundations Bible college
Cedarville University
Grove City College

Oh the ones in red we have actually been to and have friends who attend I can share our impressions. The ones in green we have not visited personally but have friends who attend. Our son goes to Appalachian Bible College. They do allow some contemporary music. So does Bryan, Patrick Henry, Grove City, and Cedarville.
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I don't want to cause a fight, but I do want to put some things out there.

If one wants to attend a Christian college with rules by which one needs to abide, I think that one needs to solidly be of that mindset from the get-go, having thought about all of the options and having come to the same conclusions that the college comes to, through one's logic and not from simply being told that XYZ is correct.

I go to a secular university. It's not a dry campus, but if you get caught in the open drinking underage or using drugs, well, there will be consequences. Clearly, then, there are no curfews or restrictions on who can enter which dorm rooms, etc.

I visited a Christian (Lutheran) college before I applied: St. Olaf College. It's a great little college. However, I found the atmosphere stifling. Why? I didn't think there was enough "openness" to questioning and thinking. There were rules (and those rules were not close to as strict the rules are at some other colleges). I'm rather conservative myself and was raised with strong values. However, I was feeling that something wasn't right.

Of course, now I'm at a college with temptation and all options open, sitting on a platter in front of me. Is that a bad thing? Yes and no. It depends who you are and how you will respond. It definitely has provided an atmosphere in which I can find any and all views to question and learn from. I love debating and learning from atheists, for example. They help me learn about myself and my values. They help me learn why I am right sometimes, but also why they are serious thinkers in pursuit of the truth. It is crucial, I think, to be exposed to different opinions. Being truly human means that one must make decisions for oneself.

I heard this story from my sister: Her friend, a conservative Christian, was being dropped off at a secular university a few years ago. As his dad turned to him, about to leave his son on his own to fend for himself, he said: "Son, I've taught you well over the past 18 years. Now go out there and make me proud!" The guy has stayed in line. College is a great time to flourish and spread one's wings. Remembering one's values and also learning from the "other side", I think, produces the most informed and strongest outcome.

Just my two cents! (Sometimes I feel like shaking things up a bit on this forum... but gently. )


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and remember what peace there may be in silence. . . ." - Max Ehrmann, "Desiderata"
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Most of the Christian colleges that allow  such visitation has restricted times and open door policy. Wheaton allows it.  Cedarville wrote me its only allowed on special days about once every 2 months.  My DH hasn't quite responded for that one ye,t but I'm thinking it would be OK.  I personally would not want my roommates boyfriend hanging around my personal space several times a week.   Southwest Baptist U only has it twice a month.    DH feels a boy just has no business in a girls bedroom because he knows how men think so a Christian College shouldn't allow it.   Thanks for the list,  If anyone else is interested I'll post the info as I find out.    So far, Toccoa is still her first choice.  ( But that is because she hasn't gotten a chance to see others.)  
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Grace College (Indiana) has "Open House" for a few hours twice a month. Moody has "Open House" twice a semester. Otherwise opposite ***** are not allowed to visit the rooms. Moody has a 1/2 hour exception for immediate family (brothers, fathers).
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Tell her to keep TFC as first choice, it's a great school! (oh, I see from your other thread that she's interested in music...the music program here is one of the best in the country...I'm amazed every time I go to a performance how wonderful our music majors are.)

*will be graduating from TFC in May*



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